Helicopter mom, unicorn mom, lawnmower mom, free-range and tiger mom. What does this all mean and what kind of mom are you?
Let me preference this with I have raised a 21-year-old daughter and still have a 16-year-old son at home. My daughter gave me hell growing up so I thought raising this boy will be easy because I have already experienced everything a teenager can possibly put you through. WRONG!
The first time my son called me a helicopter mom, I was like what the hell is that? I have never heard of that term. So I had to do some research, then prove to this hormonal adolescent that I was indeed not a helicopter mom, at least I didn’t think I was.
Think of how a helicopter hovers, well basically a helicopter mom is a mom who hovers over her child. If you answer any of these questions with a year then you are most likely a helicopter mom.
- Do you make your kid stay home instead of spending the night with a friend because you will miss him/her for that one night?
- Do you walk them to class every day?
- Do you “help” them with there homework, basically do it for them because you want to make sure they get 100%?
- When your kid comes home and says someone was mean to them do you call that other parent and discuss “go off” this instead of letting your own kid take care of it?
- Do you not let your kid go on field trips if you cannot go?
- Do you read their texts, social media, and track their every move?
Ok, I am going to admit I have probably done a few of these things but now I realize that it was actually hindering my kids from learning through their experiences. So my son, after he tells me to stop being a helicopter mom, asks me to “help” him with this English paper. He said he could not figure out the MLA format. Well, he is home-schooled so I teach him. And in the past when I proof-read his assignments I tell him the corrections before he submits. BUT since he is so against me being a helicopter mom I pointed out that he needs to learn how to write his own paper. Google will surely walk you through MLA format. Or even the online textbook and lessons will. That is when I realized quickly that his hormonal adolescent knew way more about parent labels than I realized and just maybe he was using them against me because then he accused me of being a unicorn mom!
According to the Urban Dictionary, a unicorn mom is defined as
A mother who’s not perfect, enjoys alcohol, has a sense of humor and couldn’t care less what you think.
I am not a perfect mom but I love my kids like crazy. But my life DOES NOT revolve around them. And I have realized they need to make mistakes and learn from them. So I proudly told my son to do his own English paper. He drives a vehicle on his own, he works a job, so surely he can figure out how to write a simple essay and put it in MLA format.
He got a bad grade but his online teacher proofed the paper so he knows what he has to correct. And my dear readers is what he is going to do. Correct his own paper.
So long gone are the days of me hovering over my youngest making sure he is perfect, and everything he does is perfect.
Bye-Bye helicopter mom!